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Vacuuming Scares the Cat (and other excuses for not cleaning my house)

I have a great title for a book. The ADHD Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together (and throwing it out.)

I’m a really good housekeeper on the inside. Inside my mind, I mean. I absolutely love the idea of a comfortable, minimalist home where there is only what we need and use, and everything has its storage place, and everyone puts stuff away properly after they use it. I fantasize about hiring one of those “we take your junk” services, and a couple of strong men, and ruthlessly going through our house saying, “Take that, and that, and that, and that, and that…” and ending up with so much stuff just….gone. I don’t want to have to sort it, or have a garage sale, or haul it away myself, or sell it, or donate it, or see if one of the kids wants it. I just want it out of here.

But that is a fantasy because … I have slight hoarder tendencies. Not like newspaper to the ceiling, or anything. I have lots of stacks. Books I bought and don’t have room for on my shelves. Mail, both important and unimportant. LOTS of yarn. Three junk drawers in the kitchen. I am very territorial about my stacks. I have a general idea of what is in my stacks, and I get anxious if anyone moves them around.

I read Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, and I found it inspiring. I know people like to make fun of the spiritual aspect of it, but for those of us who have anxiety about letting go of things, it sort of helped. I would never take the time to address each and every item before letting it go, but there are some things that do require a little ritual to get that tiny extra push to get them out of the house. What I really found most useful about the book was Kondo’s different technique for purging. She advocates tidying by category of stuff, not by the room, or the drawer, or the closet. This appeals to my ADHD ability to hyperfocus (which is a negative term – I like to use the term super-engage). I can super-engage with purging one category of stuff without running into the constant problem of distraction (mostly).

For instance, if I start, in the traditional way, to clean out a junk drawer that has hundreds of items in it, I have to make a discard or keep decision about every item. That part is not hard, I am pretty ruthless. But then I have to make a “Where does it go?” decision about all the keeper items. If I find the stapler and the staples that fit it, I have to decide, “Does this really need to be here? I only staple something about twice a year. Wouldn’t this be better in a plastic box with the hole punch, and extra ink cartridges, and paper fasteners and large mailing envelopes? And where would I put that box? In the downstairs closet under the stairs! Oh, but there’s stuff in there already… .” And before you know it, I’m downstairs going through that closet and all the keeper stuff from the junk drawer is still spread out on the kitchen table. You see my issue.

I’m actually a good cleaner, once a room is uncluttered and everything is stored away. It’s that “putting everything away” part that kills the ride. That and the neurotic cat that hides for hours under the bed every time I vacuum.

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Is a clothing box subscription for you?

There are many different clothing subscription services available that offer you a personal stylist who selects items for you and ships them automatically. There are many possibilities, from high-end, rentable outfits, to quirky, inexpensive monthly t-shirts or socks. There are also subscriptions for cosmetics, jewelry, lingerie, accessories, and just about anything you could think of, but let’s focus on clothing for a moment.

Is a clothing subscription service for you?

Are you comfortable with someone else picking clothing for you? If you love to shop, love trying on outfits, love shopping bags and bringing your purchases home, then a subscription service won’t scratch that shopping itch. Likewise, if you are a bargain hunter who enjoys finding that great sweater or dress finally on sale, a subscription service will rob you of the thrill of the hunt. But if you’re like me, and feel overwhelmed and anxious in a store full of choices, you just might like having your choices made for you and sent in a fun mystery box every so often.

Are you disciplined enough for a subscription service?

There are rules, and if you don’t follow them, you can end up paying a lot for items you never wear. For instance, what is your clothing budget? Make sure you know before you sign up. Don’t agree to receive a box every month if you don’t have the funds to pay for it. Why tempt yourself to overspend? Take time to assess your wardrobe and really think about how often you buy clothes and how much you can spend. Make sure the subscription service you choose allows you to space out your boxes, and to cancel a box or change the frequency of your boxes if you need to.

Can you trust yourself to make returns in a timely manner? Most services provide return packaging and free shipping for returns. The trick is, you have to try the clothes on, make a decision, check out on the website, and get the package to the post office on time. Remember, they have your credit card number, and you have agreed to the terms. If you are too much of a procrastinator, you can end up paying for clothes you don’t want and will never wear.

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Can you work with your stylist to get the most out of your subscription?

When you sign up, you will be asked to provide your weight and measurements. Be honest! You want clothing you can wear NOW, not in a few months when you lose ten pounds. Also, the more detailed you are in describing your lifestyle, favorite colors, age, activities, and preferences, the more likely you are to get items that you will like and wear. If you never wear jeans, tell your stylist “no jeans.” If you like to choose your own jewelry or shoes, say that. Tell your stylist about the climate where you live. Also, and this is very important, give instructions about what kind of care you want the garments to receive. For instance, I specified that a few dry-clean only items were okay, but nothing hand wash only, EVER!

Will you be comfortable sending feedback?

Make sure the service you choose makes it easy to send feedback when you check out. You are not likely to go back and do it later, after you have sent your unwanted items back. Every time you send feedback, you improve the choices you receive in your next box. (If the service doesn’t listen to your feedback, you need to switch services.) Likewise, check to make sure the items are within the price range you set when you signed up. If a service is sending you items that exceed your budget, send them back and SAY WHY YOU ARE NOT BUYING THE ITEM. They will correct the problem, because they want you to buy. If you accept items that are out of your price range, they will keep sending them. You can’t really blame them, you know?

Make sure they don’t require you to give referrals. You don’t want to have to do that. However, some services will give you credit when you do make a referral, so make sure you know how to claim it.

Can you discipline yourself enough to evaluate how the service is working for you?

Keep records of what you buy. It is as easy as printing out your receipt when you check out. After two or three boxes, evaluate the cost and see if you are staying within your clothing budget. If you are a really diligent record keeper, make notes of how often you wear each item and calculate the cost per wearing. Nick Saban is not going to be there to say, “Young lady…” and guilt you into not making purchases you shouldn’t make.

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If you are going over your budget, is it because you are buying items that you are not 100% satisfied with, buying items unintentionally because you didn’t return them in time, or because you are receiving boxes too frequently? Whatever it is, take action to fix it. I suggest doing this within three months after you start the service. Any longer and you might get into credit card trouble, which we don’t want.

Wouldn’t you love to clean out your closet?

After six months, get rid of things you don’t wear. Let go of those pants that are frayed at the hems, and that jacket with the broken zipper. Don’t keep your fat jeans and your skinny jeans. Keep your “right now” jeans.

Can you be brutal?

You are the customer. Do not be afraid to cut the cord if the service is not working out great for you. If a shirt falls apart the first time you wash it, send it back with a note asking for a credit and explaining that you need clothing that holds up. If a service is not responsive to problems like this, then cancel and try a different one. Make the service work for you.

Which service is the best?

That I can’t tell you. Here is an article that gives the basic info on several services. Be sure to check the website of the service before you sign up and read the fine print. I use StitchFix and I give it a B+. I would give it an A, but they do tend to have price creep, and they have sent me a couple of hand wash items when I asked not to get any. But overall, for me, it is a terrific service and keeps me from EVER having to go to the mall!